Big journeys begin with small steps

Each story is different and yet similar. My story is only one amongst many. The common theme is that the abuser expects the victims/survivors to hide in the shadows. There is too much victim blaming and invalidating of survivor’s experiences going on. It is changing but it is changing too slowly to help those who are out there now, as I once was.

Pencil drawing of four female child abuse survivors standing together
Lost to the Darkness

Lost to the Darkness

I stood on the precipice, staring into the darkness, and turned away. Sadly, I lost a friend who stood in a similar place and instead of turning away, she walked into the darkness.

Rest Peacefully, My Friend

Rest Peacefully, My Friend

I hadn’t spoken to L in years. Her death has effected me on a level that surprised me. I think her lifelong struggle with addiction may have contributed. I guess this is when people say ‘she lost her battle with her demons.’ I guess.

Date Night, Interrupted

Date Night, Interrupted

I don’t much about healthy boundaries. I was raised that I was not allowed to have boundaries. I was certainly not allowed to assert myself with healthy boundaries.

Narcissists Main Weapon – Projection

Narcissists Main Weapon – Projection

My parents yielded many abusive weapons. I don’t think one was worse or more detrimental than the other. But projection was the one from which I will be recovering from for a long while.

Projecting Our Emotions Onto Others

Projecting Our Emotions Onto Others

I received an email from a reader about projection. It is an intriguing idea and it isn’t all bad as Freud would have us believe.

What is most personal is most universal.

Carl R. Rogers

Each story is different and yet similar. My story is only one amongst many. The common theme is that the abuser expects the victims/survivors to hide in the shadows. There is too much victim blaming and invalidating of survivor’s experiences going on. It is changing but it is changing too slowly to help those who are out there now, as I once was.

And so, I choose to stand in the light by sharing my story. I am hopeful that my story will inspire others to do the same. When we are all standing together we will no longer be denied our truths.

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